Moving on from toxic relationships involves deploying a series of mindfulness self-care activities, combined with quiet biblical devotional meditation time utilizing the Bible and prayer journal.
MINDFULNESS:
The American Psychological Association (APA) defines Mindfulness as “awareness of one’s internal states and surroundings. Mindfulness can help people avoid destructive or automatic habits and responses by learning to observe their thoughts, emotions, and other present-moment experiences without judging or reacting to them.”
“Mindfulness is used in several therapeutic interventions, including mindfulness-based cognitive behavior therapy, mindfulness-based stress reduction, and mindfulness meditation.”
Additionally, I have learned from my lived experience that the “Joy of the Lord ‘is” your strength.” During my quiet bible study and prayer time, I would take all negative, hurtful communication and interactions with my Lord Jesus Christ for courage, strength, and wisdom.
Applying biblical principles with the aid of the Holy Spirit over every negative circumstance, empowered me to quickly move on while maintaining peace of mind and a joyful attitude.
BREAKING INTERGENERATIONAL TRAUMA AND PROMOTE HEALING FROM TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS
Through the Power of God’s Forgiveness, we need to learn lessons on how to recognize toxic narcissists, identify maltreatment behaviors, set clear boundaries, seek professional assistance, and draw on supportive peer & coaching networks to strengthen social connectedness. Most importantly, recognize that these healing strategies will help you maintain good self-care and stop the spread or “break the cycle” so that you can teach your loved ones /children about having future healthy relationships.
| ◄ Nehemiah 8:10 ► Then he said to them, “Go your way, eat the fat, drink the sweet, and send portions to those for whom nothing is prepared; for this day is holy to our Lord. Do not sorrow, for the joy of the LORD is your strength.” |
The Doctrine of Rewards: The Judgment Seat (Bema) of Christ
“(2) All believers, regardless of their spiritual state, will be raptured and will stand before the Bema to give an account of their lives and will either receive rewards or lose rewards. Some believe in a partial rapture theory which says that only those in fellowship with the Lord will be raptured as a form of punishment for their sin. As mentioned above, this is not only contrary to the finished work of Christ who once and for all paid the penalty for our sins, but it is contrary to the teaching of 1 Thessalonians 5:9-11.“…….
The Examiner or Judge at the Bema
“This is none other than the Lord Jesus who is even now examining our lives and will bring to light the true nature of our walk and works when we stand before Him at the Bema (Rev. 1-2; 1 Cor. 4:5f; 2 Cor. 5:10; 1 John 2:28). In Romans 14:10 the Apostle called this examining time the Bema of God while in 2 Corinthians 5:10 he called it the Bema of Christ. The Point: Jesus who is God is our examiner and rewarder.”
Are You Ready To Give An Account to our Lord Jesus? OR Are You A Fake Christian?
https://bible.org/article/doctrine-rewards-judgment-seat-bema-christ
BREAKING FREE & HEALING FROM TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS
Shaneen Magji’s website provides a variety of resource material, blogs, ebooks, and other 12-week group coaching programs.
Ms. Magji states “The toxicity you have experienced is not your destiny. Whether you are in a toxic environment now, recovering from toxic relationships or trying not to repeat past situations, we have resources for you.”
“TOXICITY IS NOT YOUR DESTINY” by Shaneen Magji
Certified Life Coach, Shaneen Magji states on her YouTube channel “Toxicity Is Not Your Destiny……” God truly doesn’t waste anything. Each and every experience and all the studies I have done help me in my passion to set people free from the bondage and oppression of narcissistic relationships, to help survivors of such pain regain their authentic selves and their hope in God’s good plans for them, and to re-educate the church around toxic leadership.”
“The toxicity you have experienced is not your destiny. Whether you are in a toxic environment now, recovering from toxic relationships or trying not to repeat past situations, we have resources for you.”
“Explained Why Narcissists Hate to See You Happy” –From a Spiritual, Biblical and Practical Perspective” by Shaneen Magji
May 21, 2024 #healingfromnarcissisticabuse #biblicalperspectivenarcissism #toxicity
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Lastly, I would like to recommend another excellent blog resource from Shaneen Magji entitled “Eight Steps to Leaving a Toxic Church or Cult Unscathed” on April 22, 2024
Eight Steps to Leaving a Toxic Church or Cult Unscathed-by Shaneen Magji
Church Narcissistic Religious Leaders
“Are you thinking of leaving a toxic church, a spiritual community, or a workplace but not sure how to come out of it unscathed?”
“In this blog, I will give you eight tips on how to leave a toxic church without getting traumatized in the process.”
“You might be part of a church, ministry, or workplace, and the leader is toxic. What do I mean by toxic? “
“Two Characteristics of a Toxic Leader“
“There are two characteristics of a toxic leader. “
“Abuse of Authority“
“When leaders abuse their position of authority, they take themselves way too seriously. Instead of representing God, they act like a god. Rather than using the ministry God has entrusted them with to build up the people He sends to them, they use the people to build their own empires. Their work might be all about God, but God is not part of it. “
“Hypocrisy“
“Toxic leaders demonstrate hypocrisy, meaning that their private lives do not reflect what they teach. They may have insightful biblical teachings. They may be gifted. They may be called by God. However, they are not living out what they teach. Their lives are a big sham. While these leaders often present a benevolent, loving, Christ-like facade to the public, they may be monsters after church. Perhaps only their closest staff, friends, and family know what they are truly like. They are hypocrites, the blind guides that Jesus warned us about.”
“These leaders may have begun their ministry following the leading of God and the power of the Holy Spirit. This likely is what attracted you to their community. But, sadly, they may have fallen prey to one of the three temptations every human faces: money, sex, and fame. “
“It is also possible that the leader of your community started off with a hidden agenda. This kind of leader may be a covert passive-aggressive narcissist. These people are charming to the world, but behind closed doors, they are tyrants. They have a Jekyll and Hyde personality. You don’t want to mess with such people. They are masters at manipulation and gaslighting. Once you cross them, they can destroy your reputation. Nothing is out of bounds for them, and they will not hesitate to punish you by turning your friends against you. From personal experience, I can testify that this is an incredibly painful, isolating, and confusing experience. If you are concerned that you are dealing with a covert narcissist, you can read more here on how to spot a covert narcissist. I have also written an ebook on how to spot a narcissist at the beginning of a relationship, which you can access here.”
“Eight Tips on How to Leave“
“Since toxic leadership often penalizes those attempting to leave, it’s crucial to master the art of exiting such environments smoothly. Below, I’ve distilled eight vital tips from my own experiences that can spare you significant anguish……”
https://www.shaneenmegji.com/blog/how-to-get-out-eight-steps-to-leaving-a-toxic-church-or-cult
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